It's pretty easy to hook a guy with your good looks and flawless physique, but getting a guy to develop a deep emotional bond with you is definitely the way to win his heart. Emotional attachment is what makes him want to spend the rest of his life with you, and makes him go out of his way to make you happy, and leaves him yearning to spend as much quality time with you as possible. No matter how long you've been in a relationship, it's never too soon to start increasing the emotional intimacy to ensure his love for you never dies. If you're ready for the type of love that never falters throughout the years, keep reading to see the 12 ways you can make your guy feel emotionally attached to you.
12 Be the Prize
Lets say you find a pair of dirty Converse sneakers on the side of the road. You pick them up and wear them because they're somewhat stylish, but best of all, they were free. They hold you over until you save up enough money to buy the pair of Gucci pumps you've been drooling over. You've been working two jobs just to save up the cash, and when you finally have enough money, you toss the Converse shoes into the trash, and start rocking those Gucci pumps every single day! They're a constant reminder of just how hard you worked to obtain them. Do you see where I'm going with this? People naturally treasure things that they work hard for, and the same is true when it comes to relationships. Men don't want a woman that any other guy can have, they want a prize. So make sure you present yourself as a woman of value. Allow him to court you and chase you, and once you let him catch you, he will want to hold on to you forever!
11 Praise Him
Whether he convinced his boss to give him a raise or he just scored a triple-double during a weekend pickup game of basketball, make sure to praise your guy for all of his accomplishments. As he makes his way through his hectic everyday life, he will feel secure knowing he has you, his number one fan, cheering him on. He will ultimately feel like he can conquer anything in the world as long as he has you in his life. Giving him praise for his actions will only drive him to want to excel in every area of his life, including his relationship. He will go out of his way to please you and make sure that you’re happy as long as he can get a pat on the back when it’s all said and done! He won’t be able to stop himself from feeling even more drawn to you, because receiving your praise will be his ultimate goal. The emotional intimacy and bond will slowly build up over time.
10 Spice It Up
They say variety is the spice of life, and shaking things up in your relationship will definitely deepen the emotional bond between you and your guy. But when we say “spice” we’re not talking about a a dash of black pepper, we’re talking about igniting the flame and heating things up in the bedroom! It’s all about being adventurous and trying something new that your man has never experienced with any other woman. Whenever he thinks about the intimate moments the two of you have shared, he’ll solely be thinking about you! But this isn’t a one-way street, darling. Make sure you express your desires as well. If the two of you can mutually please each other and fulfill the others’ fantasies, you will continue to grow closer and closer together. So make an effort to discuss your wants and needs, and explore your intimacy. It will strengthen your emotional bond even further.
9 Reveal Something About Yourself
If you want a man to really feel emotionally attached to you, share a different side of yourself. But don’t bother telling him something that will scare him away, like the story of when you pooped your pants while playing volleyball in the third grade (seriously, no one should ever hear that story.) Instead, share a side of yourself that he has never seen. Perhaps you have a hidden talent that you’ve been keeping under wraps, or you can even try to impress him with your intermediate Spanish skills the next time you order your favorite dish at a Mexican restaurant. He will not only be impressed by how awesome you are, but he’ll want to peel back the additional layers to get to know you even more. Revealing your true self one piece at a time will make him feel even more connected to you. It will also encourage him to share more of himself with you, as well. Just cross your fingers and hope his hidden talent has absolutely nothing to do with his bodily functions.
8 Encourage Him to Open Up
Now that you’ve revealed one of your hidden talents, it’s time to encourage him to open up on a deeper level. But poking and prodding him to spill his guts will surely lead you down a road to disaster. Just remember, most men are not as open with their thoughts and their feelings like women are. Allow him to divulge bits and pieces of his past to you at his own pace. This is a process that can take months or even years. You’re in this for the long haul, right? So there really isn’t any rush in making him tell you his whole life story all at once. When he does begin to open up, encourage him to discuss how those experiences changed him. When he starts to let his guard down, and he begins to let you get a glimpse at the more personal side of his life, your emotional bond will continue to strengthen.
7 Be Accepting
If your guy is on guard because you’re constantly belittling and judging him about every little thing, he won’t be as willing to become emotionally attached to you. Being accepting of him and his choices in life shows that you support him and will stand by his side no matter what. Of course, if he is doing something detrimental to himself or to the relationship, then by all means, it’s time for you to speak up. But if he likes wearing socks with his sandals, is it really going to be the end of the world? His exes probably refused to leave the house with him dressed like that. But you? You’re different! Let him express his individuality, and if he knows that he has a loving woman by his side who will be there for him not matter what, he will feel much closer to you on an intimate and emotional level.
6 Show Gratitude
Most men don’t ask for much. All they want is to feel loved and appreciated for protecting and providing for you. After being in a relationship for years, saying “thank you” is a phrase that sometimes gets lost. Remember when he took you out on your first date? He opened up every single door for you. As you walked through the door frames, you would turn to look at him, and with a huge smile on your face you said, “thank you so much.” That simple “thank you” went a long way at the beginning of your relationship, and it still holds so much power. Showing gratitude for every little thing he does to make your life easier is the fastest way to make a man become emotionally attached to you. He will continue to go out of his way to make you happy because it makes him happy to see you smile.
5 Don't Fight Dirty
Have you ever dated someone who picked apart all of your weaknesses every time the two of you got into an argument? Even friends and family members will go for the low blow all in the name of winning a petty argument. It’s pretty much a sucky way to gain the upper hand in a disagreement. Fighting dirty with your guy will immediately destroy any trust the two of you have built throughout your relationship. So the next time you have a disagreement, don’t start throwing things back in his face, such as “that’s why your mother hates you!” or, “that’s exactly why your ex-girlfriend cheated on you!” These kind of damaging statements can be detrimental to the emotional bond you two share. Instead, stay on topic and focus on the issues at hand. Fighting your battles with a level head and without hurling insults shows your maturity and emotional stability. He will know that even at your angriest, you won’t go out of your way to really hurt him.
4 Connect Intellectually
If you want your relationship to really last, and you want your guy to feel emotionally connected to you, superficial conversations won’t get you very far. If you’re past your teenage years, it’s time to stay up-to-date on current events and rock his world with your in-depth knowledge. The New York Times sends out a daily briefing every morning straight to your inbox. You can skim the email to check out the world’s latest news, and then bring those topics up during the next conversation you have with your boo. But make sure you’re focusing on the topics that you’re actually interested in and subjects that you feel comfortable discussing. If you can hold a meaningful conversation with your guy about topics other than the Kardashians and mindless gossip, he won’t be able to stop himself from feeling connected to you. In case you didn’t get the memo: being smart is oh so sexy!
3 Soft Touches
Emotional intimacy builds over time with a little bit of help from the physical side of things. Men are accustomed to rough housing. They spend the majority of their childhood and teenage years getting bumped around, bruised, and breaking bones while playing contact sports and while goofing off with their friends. So when he chooses to be in a relationship, he will crave the kind of soft and gentle touches he probably hasn’t felt since the days when he was just a small child. As you go in for a hug before he heads out for work, allow your touch to linger as you slowly pull yourself away from him. He’ll be thinking about you all day long and counting down the hours until he can experience that soft touch once again. The way you caress him will become addicting, and he will forever want to be in your presence.
2 Keep His Secrets
The ultimate sign of trust is when you are able to keep all of your guy’s secrets between the two of you. Unless he has a hidden double life as a serial killer, or his secret will somehow be detrimental to your life, anything that he shares with you in confidence should never be shared with another soul. When he knows that he can go to you and share whatever is on his mind, you will become his sounding board, his best friend, and his sole confidante. He will never feel the need to stray away from you if he truly believes in his heart that he can trust you. If he knows deep down inside that you won’t blab his inner most thoughts to your mom, all of your girlfriends, and to everyone on your Facebook friend’s list, he will let down his guard as he slowly becomes even more emotionally attached to you.
1 Become His Safe Place
His day started off pretty horribly. He spilled his iced coffee just seconds after the barista handed it to him through the drive-thru window, he got into an intense email battle with a colleague, and he was inches from being rear ended while fighting traffic on his way home. But as soon as he entered your home, he walked straight into his safe haven. This scenario is exactly how your guy should feel every single day. He’ll be scrambling to get home to you because being with you gives him a sense of emotional and physical safety. Your arms keep him secure, your kiss can ease his fears, and laying his head on your chest makes him feel protected from the world. You’re never quick to judge him, you never spill his secrets, and you fulfill all of his fantasies on a whim. You’re practically his dream girl at this point, and your emotional bond is something that will never be broken!