You're madly in love with your co-worker. You can't stop thinking about him and want more than anything, to be with him. However, it can be a tricky situation. Well, so you think. You work together, therefore, you'd never want to make anything uncomfortable or awkward. That being said, though, because you work together, you instantly have something in common. Not only will this make conversation with him a whole lot easier than say, if you met a cute guy at a bar, but it's also an 'in.' You guys are supposed to communicate and spend time together- so much so that you get paid to do it. Chances are, he'd like to spend more time around you, especially if he likes his job. You shouldn't be afraid to reach out and drop hints about being more than just co-workers, but if you are, don't worry. Read below to find out 12 things to do to get your co-worker to notice you.
12 Dress to Impress
No one ever feels like spending extra time in front of the mirror before work, but if you want to get his attention, you're going to have to put in a little work. Think about it: You spend a lot of time getting ready to go out to a bar or a club with your friends because you want to look great if you meet that special someone... So why wouldn't you do the same if that special someone is waiting for you at work? Not only will looking your best make you feel more confident about yourself and in your own skin, but it will also make him notice you.
11 Go Above And Beyond
Every guy likes a smart girl and that's exactly what you are. It's easy to get lazy or comfortable at work. We all do it. You know your job and how to do it. However, if you want him to notice just how brilliant you are, it's time to go above and beyond. For example, you could pick up more responsibility or find other ways to excel in the workplace. Be the employee that everyone looks to for help, including him. A driven, creative and hard working woman is way more attractive than a woman who mindlessly goes about her day to day duties.
10 Surprise Him
If you stop for coffee on your way to work, grab one for him. If you make cookies and you have extra left over, give him some. In little ways, let him know that you were thinking of him outside of the workplace. If he has a birthday coming up, give him a thoughtful gift. It's all right to give him special treatment. After all, he is a bit more special to you than the rest of your co-workers. Take a chance. What do you have to lose? If nothing else, it will make him appreciate you as a friend in addition to a co-worker.
9 Open Up
Now, we're not saying that you should spend hours chatting his ear off about what you did last weekend or how bad your break up was with your ex, but we are suggesting that you talk to him just as you would any other guy you meet. Just because he's your co-worker, doesn't mean he can't know a little bit about your personal life. If you want him to see you as more than a co-worker, you're going to have to talk to him as if you're more than just a co-worker. Chances are, he's nervous to talk to you about things that aren't work related because he doesn't want to feel like he's crossing a line. However, the more you open up to him, the more he'll want to open up to you.
8 Suggest Office Parties
Everyone loves a good office party now and then. Not only are they great for team building, but they're also a great opportunity to get to know your co-workers better. If your place of work doesn't have regular office parties, be the person who insists they start. This way, you'll be able to get to know him outside of the office or outside of a work setting. It's important that he starts seeing you as more than just the girl that sits across the hall from him at work and an office party is the perfect opportunity for that.
7 Compliment Him
Every guy loves an ego stroke every now and then, including him. If you see him doing a great job at work, compliment him. Chances are, he wants to be noticed and he'll be appreciative of anyone who realizes his value. Even a simple, "wow, that was so great how you handled that client," will do. Additionally, a compliment is a great conversation starter. For example, you could follow up that compliment with a, "how do you stay so calm in stressful situations?" Trust us, he'll want to talk about it. Everyone likes being admired.
6 Offer A Helping Hand
If he just started working at your office, be the person that he looks to if he ever finds himself in need of advice. And when we mean advice, we're talking in every different subject. Let him know if he needs a restaurant reccomendation for lunch, you're his girl. If he needs a co-workers contact, you've got their number. If he ever finds himself in a sticky situation, you've got his back. Not only will he appreciate you reaching out, he'll also come to you more often for help. If nothing else, it'll be the beginning of a great friendship.
5 Remember Things About Him
Every time you talk to him, make mental notes about the conversation. For example, if he says something about his dog, remember it. The next time you talk to him, ask about his dog. Doing this will help show him that you care about him and his life. Additionally, it'll make him want to open up to you because he'll know that you actually listen instead of thinking you're just trying to make mindless small talk. Get to know him in every way that you can so when you do talk, you have stimulating and interesting discussions that matter.
4 Go Out On A Limb
Be brave. Don't hesitate to ask him if he wants to join you for lunch or if he wants to grab a drink after work. If you find an opportunity to work on a group project, ask him if he'll be your partner. Remember, if you want something, you have to go after it and the same is true with him. Don't be afraid to flirt with him or walk over to his desk just because you felt like saying hi. It's all right to go out on a limb, especially if you like him and think that he might like you in return.
3 Stay Late
As much as you might not want to stay at the office late, it might be worth it to spend a little extra time around him. Why? Because chances are, no one else is going to stay late which leaves you two alone. Often times, it's hard to act anything but professional when there are other people around. Therefore, if it's only you and him left alone together, you'll be able to get to know one another without the scrutiny of your co-workers (which, lets face it, can be awkward). If you notice that he always comes into the office early, start coming in early yourself. You don't even need an excuse. It's where you work, therefore, you can come and go whenever you like.
2 Reach Out
He's your co-worker, therefore, it's normal to have regular communication with him. Most likely, you have his email and his phone number. Use them. If you read an interesting article, pass it his way and say you'd think he'd like it. If you read something funny or see a meme that's relatable to him, show him and let him know you wanted to brighten his day. Not only does this open up room for discussion, but it will also help improve the atmosphere in your workplace. After all, employees that get along well tend to better and more efficient work.
1 Make It Clear
Often times, when people start working somewhere, they assume that their co-workers want to solely maintain professional relationships. And of course, you do. However, because you also want a personal relationship, you should make it clear that you're interested in having him in your life as more than just a co-worker. Chances are, he's interested in having more than just an "office" relationship, he just doesn't want you to feel uncomfortable or disrespected. It's up to you to make the first move if he hasn't already.