Isn’t it crazy how movies get the single life totally wrong? You would think they would have figured out by now that not having a boyfriend doesn’t mean dancing around your apartment wearing nothing but underwear or eating ice cream for dinner every night of the week (out of the carton, too, of course). In reality, you may be single, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have the greatest life ever. You truly have fun every day and care about your career and friendships more than you lament the fact that you haven’t met your person yet. But even though it’s more difficult to meet in person today than it was a decade or even just a few years ago, there is more to the story. You might be solo for a few reasons that you don’t even realize. Here are the 12 reasons you’re still single.
12 You’re Picky To A Fault
Too short. Too tall. Blonde hair. Brown hair. Red hair. A lawyer, not a doctor. A doctor, not a lawyer. If you can always find a problem with your date, whether physically or when it comes to his job or personality, then maybe it’s not them but it’s you. Being super picky can be a pretty surefire way to stay single for a very long time. Hey, it’s one thing to have standards and look after yourself – but it’s totally another to never like anyone at all. Giving people a fair chance is never a bad thing.
11 You Never Go On Second Dates
Guess what? If you want a relationship, you kind of have to go on a second date eventually. Of course, that’s so much easier said than done, considering how many frogs you have to kiss (or even just sit across from in a crowded bar). Maybe you never go on a second date because you can never meet anyone that you like enough – and that’s a totally legit reason. But hopefully you do start meeting some nice, interesting guys eventually. It sucks to only go on first dates and bad first dates at that, too.
10 You’re Busy
Your schedule is jam-packed these days so it’s no wonder you don’t think you have time to date. You see your friends on weeknights, go to parties and cool events around your city on the weekends, and have to find time to hit the gym and call your mom every once in a while. Plus, you’ve got a career to look after and huge dreams to follow. But sometimes saying you’re too busy to be in a relationship can be an excuse, so if you really do want a boyfriend, maybe it’s time to clear your schedule for some dates.
9 You’re Binge-Watching
Everyone loves a good binge-watching session. Thanks, Netflix. But unfortunately, if you’re single and Netflix is your biggest hobby, that could be the reason that you never meet anyone. After all, you have to leave your house if you want to go on a date, don’t you? You have probably gotten into the habit of watching TV by yourself every single night and weekend unless you have plans with your best friends, but if you never get off the couch, you will never get a boyfriend. Sounds pretty simple, doesn’t it?
8 You’re Super Shy
In your regular, non-dating life, you’re not all that shy at all. You can hold a conversation like anyone else and have a pretty massive social circle. Your friends would never describe you as the shy, silent type – except when it comes to the guys that you like. You never go on dates because you’re terrified to put yourself out there and make a mistake -- even though, of course, there are no real dating mistakes since no one knows what they’re doing. If you’re that scared to tell someone how you feel or even go on a first date, though, it’s no wonder your status is still set to single.
7 You Plan For The Future
Sure, planning for the future is a much better idea than not thinking about it all. You don’t want to end up in debt and wake up one day a decade from now and realize that, oops, you never left the job that makes you miserable and you never got around to following your true dreams. But too much planning can make you super single if you make every big decision based on your solo status. If you want to buy a condo or even a house, maybe wait a few years and see if you find love, if that’s at the top of your list, too. It’s much smarter than buying the property of your dreams and then meeting the love of your life – who wants you to move halfway across the world.
6 You’re Really Stubborn
If there’s one thing that all single people have in common, it’s the tendency to be super stubborn at times (or, okay, all of the time). It’s cool, it’s not your fault. It’s just that when you’re used to making decisions for yourself all the time and doing what you want, when you want, you forget that’s not how life really is. It’s possible that every time you meet someone you’re romantically interested in, you worry about how it’s going to affect your perfect life and your iron-clad routine, and that makes you shy away from falling in love.
5 You’re Afraid
It’s an old cliché but still pretty true: if you’re single, sometimes it’s because you’re totally scared of falling in love. Of course it’s frightening to put yourself out there and see if you get rejected. Because people will reject you and that sucks, basically. There’s no denying how awful that can be. But if you never try, you never know, as they say. Don’t forget to leave your cozy little bubble every once in a while and try to get over that fear – it’s the only way you’re ever going to find a relationship.
4 Your Ex Won’t Stop Texting You
Ugh. It’s like a law of ex-boyfriends or something. Every time you think that you’re truly over him this time – for real – he comes back into your life. Your phone is blowing up with text messages from him all the time and he’s commenting on your Instagram and Facebook photos, too. He claims he misses you (yet again) and you tell him you’ve moved on (yet again). You spend so much time trying to ignore your ex and trying to forget the past that you’re not really able to find new love.
3 You Only Go On Bad Dates
Sigh. The bad date. It’s a rite of passage for any single woman, unfortunately, and it doesn’t seem to be going away anytime soon. If you only go on bad dates and never seem to click with a guy, then of course you’re still seriously single. That’s really just the worst because you’re trying, you’re putting yourself out into the world, and you’re doing everything that you’re supposed to do when you want love. But you just can’t meet a guy that you connect with. It’s super frustrating so thankfully you enjoy your life so you can have fun in the meantime.
2 You’re Fed Up
Sometimes you just can’t handle going on first dates anymore – they definitely aren’t for the faint of heart. So you take a break from dating that lasts anywhere from a week to six months. It’s not that you never want to date again – you just need some time to yourself and to really enjoy your single life. So you go on a self-imposed dating break and basically swear off thinking about guys. You’re just so fed up with the whole annoying game that this feels like the best thing for you. So, of course, you stay single.
1 You Love The Single Life
You have total control over your life and your apartment, too. You can spread out in your double bed and sleep using all the covers. You can watch whatever you want, whenever you want. You live a life free of drama and worry, and you are having the time of your life. So yes, you’re single because you definitely want to be. You wouldn’t have it any other way, at least not right now. Who knows how you’ll feel tomorrow? It’s a woman’s prerogative to change her mind, after all.