Is there anything worse than trying to get your crush to realize that you’re into him? Even if you’re the most experienced flirt around, it’s not easy to show someone that you are dying to go out with them without, you know, actually telling them. You don’t want to come right out and say it because you want to stay mysterious – and that’s totally cool. Maybe you’re just not all that comfortable making the first move but you want to help him a bit along the way. Here are 12 obvious signs to let him know you’re interested. He’s bound to catch on at some point and you two can live happily ever after. Problem solved.
Wait, what? You’re probably thinking that ignoring his text messages for hours at a time is the way to go. But guys don’t think the same way that we do. If you wait before answering him, he’s going to think you don’t like him. He won’t realize that it’s all a big strategy and that you’re ignoring him on purpose. Don’t just text one-word answers, though – show him that you have something to say. If you two can hold an interesting conversation via text message, you might be able to chat just as well in person. It’s a good start, at least.
According to experts, the old-school dating technique of playing hard to get actually works: it can make someone who’s not head-over-heels for you start to view you as a potential girlfriend. However, it’s not the best strategy here because it’s not obvious at all – it’s way too vague. How is he supposed to know that when you pretend you’re too busy to be asked out that you actually do want to grab dinner? Make sure you’re giving off an available vibe so he doesn’t think you’re a super busy, super off-limits kind of person.
We all want a partner with a sense of humour – life is too boring not to laugh all the time. If you can make your crush laugh, you’re doing pretty well and he’s bound to ask you out super soon. On the other hand, you should also be laughing at his jokes (even if they’re not funny – actually, especially if they’re not funny). Your laugh should be somewhere in-between a cheesy giggle and totally hysterical laughter. Stay chill but make sure he realizes that you have an amazing personality and actually enjoy life.
We can all be pretty out of it sometimes when it comes to love, lust, and the dating game. Sometimes getting a little help from your friends is just what the doctor ordered. If you want to let this guy know that you would be interested in dating him, why not ask his best friend? You can casually ask his friend if the object of your affection is seeing anyone or if he thinks the two of you would ever have a chance. If you’re sweating just at the thought, you can totally swear his buddy to total secrecy and say you owe him pizza and beer. He’ll probably help you.
If it’s your birthday, even better, but you don’t need a special occasion to have a celebratory bash in your lovely apartment. You can throw a “Just Because” party and invite the guy you like. He’ll wonder why you’re asking him since, you know, you’re not exactly coupled up yet, and he’ll start thinking about you in a romantic way. Promise. No one can turn down free booze and junk food and since it’s the dead of winter right now, he’ll be glad to have a party invite. Plus the evening will give you a chance to chat with him and make him fall madly in love with you. It’s the perfect plan, right?
Okay, you don’t want to stalk him and you don’t want him to get tired of you. But you do want to be around a lot – 24/7, basically – so you’re always on his mind. If you two work together, find random excuses to walk by his desk – grab him a coffee, suggest you eat lunch together, etc. If you have mutual friends, become super close with them so your name comes up in conversation. If you rarely see him and that’s why it’s so hard to make your feelings clear, then you can use social media to be in his face all the time (virtually, of course).
Sure, you might hug your guy friends hello, but that’s probably pretty rare. If you like this guy, you can definitely be super obvious and hug him whenever you see him. If he’s not into you that way (which means he’s clearly crazy) then he’ll get a bit uncomfortable and you’ll probably know pretty soon that nothing is going to happen between you two. But if he likes you, then he’ll start picturing you the way you want him to. You can hug him when you say goodbye, too, for good measure.
Let’s be real: trying to make someone jealous is pretty lame. It usually backfires and just isn’t the best idea. If you truly like this person and see a future with them, you don’t want to mention your ex-boyfriends. At all. Same goes for anyone else you’ve casually dated recently. If you want this guy to think of you as a love interest, then he needs to think that you’re totally available. He won’t think that way if you’re always bringing up your past loves. Instead, keep your conversations light and positive.
Let’s say this guy is a serious runner. Why not magically bump into him on his route one evening or weekend afternoon? Or maybe he’s more of a nerd and is part of a trivia or book club (that’s cool, nerds are pretty attractive). Whatever he’s into, if you get into his hobbies and what he loves to do, it gives you an excuse to spend time together and shows him that you think he’s pretty cool. Plus you’ll be giving him a million chances to finally go ahead and ask you out already so it’s a good plan.
Girls are super supportive of each other and their dreams, goals, wishes and accomplishments. Guys care about each other too, of course, but they tend to be a bit more casual about the whole thing. If you can act like you truly care about your crush’s successes – at work, at the gym, whatever – then he’ll find you motivating and inspiring to be around. He’ll appreciate the kind words and that you’re thinking about him. It just might make him approach you the same way. But give this strategy some time – it might not work right away. You need to keep at it.
In a non-creepy way, of course. And it has to make sense. You can’t just randomly blurt out that he’s so cute, smart, funny, awesome – even if you want to. He’ll think you’re super weird and your dreams will all be shattered within a single second. But we all like being complimented every once in a while, right? Make sure your compliments are said in a flirty, joking, light-hearted way – and if you’re texting, maybe throw in an adorable emoji in there for good measure. Hey, you don’t just compliment anyone. Someone has to earn that praise. He’ll get the hint.
Don’t ask him out. Ask him to hang out – there’s a big difference and it’s an important one. If you’re super casual and ask him to grab a bite sometime or head to a movie, it’ll leave his head spinning and make him wonder just what’s going on. That’s good – you want him to be confused about whether it’s a real date or a just-as-friends thing. If he likes you as much as you like him, he’ll make the mood romantic rather than platonic and will make sure that you know how he feels. He won’t want to let it slide and will want to make you his before anyone else can. How great will that be?