Falling in love can be exciting, but it can also be nerve-wracking. We hope that the man we are with adores us in every way possible. Usually, that’s the case but there are always things that girls can do that may rub our men the wrong way.
There are things that we can do in a relationship that will make our men swoon. It’s the things that we say or do that can make a guy fall deeply in love with us. We might not even realize that we are doing these things but it’s the stuff that can start the most wonderful love affair. These are the things that can make a smile come to his face easily.
Then there are the things that we do that can drive a man batty. Again, we may not even be aware that we are doing these things but they could be enough to make a guy bail on the relationship entirely. Unfortunately, there are some men that are willing to call off a relationship for the smallest reasons. Maybe they are just really picky or maybe it’s for a legitimate reason. Check out these 11 things she does that make him swoon (plus 9 that rub him the wrong way).
20 Swoon: A Girl That Takes Care Of Herself
A guy loves a girl that takes care of herself because it means that you respect yourself. Guys are visual creatures and the way you look is the first thing that they notice. Plus, guys like to be able to show their girlfriend to their friends, so looking good is a big deal for them. It’s not hard to make yourself look good for your man and he will appreciate it in the end.
Every girl has features that are unique to her and those are the things that you should highlight. Dress appropriately for your body type and make sure you are always taking care of yourself.
19 Swoon: She Makes Him Smile When She’s Not Even There
If you can make a guy smile when you aren’t even in the room with him, you can bet that you are doing something right. You might ask yourself how you can make a guy smile if you’re not with him. Don’t think for a moment that when you send those cute texts to him while he’s at work that he isn’t smiling while he reads them.
Guys like to feel wanted much in the same way that we do. It could be the watch that you gave him and which he just so happens to look at while he’s at work that's the reason for his smile, or something else that reminds him of you. A guy who is smiling when you aren’t around is definitely a man falling in love.
18 Annoyed: Pointing Out How Short He Is
If a guy is short, then he already knows that he’s short. He doesn’t need you to point it out to him. In fact, he’s probably hoping that you would just forget it. The worst thing that you could say to a guy is something like this, "I'm so much taller than you!"
You may think that you are just being playful but to him, it’s the last thing that he wants to hear. Things like that hit a guy’s ego and that’s a place where you don’t want to go. These types of jokes can make your guy feel small and why would you want to do that?
17 Swoon: A Girl That Respects Herself
When a guy is looking for someone to commit to and eventually marry, it’s not going to be with a girl that has no respect for herself. If you have a good man in your life, this is something to keep in mind. You probably wouldn’t want to be with someone that didn’t respect themselves, either.
When women respect themselves, they feel good about themselves and typically exude confidence. A man sees this and sees someone that is worth his effort. He wants a woman who has values and principles and who can hold her own. If you don’t respect yourself, how do you expect a guy to respect you?
16 Swoon: A Girl Who Loves To Laugh And Can Laugh At Herself
Nothing is sweeter to a guy than a girl who laughs a lot. Guys find it contagious, especially if you are a girl that doesn’t take herself too seriously. Girls who can make guys laugh are known to be intelligent. Girls who love to laugh are usually some of the best people you can hang with and guys love that sort of thing.
They don’t want to have to worry about offending you with their jokes so if you are already laughing, they know that they can be themselves around you. It’s one of those things that can make a guy fall hard.
15 Annoyed: When She Doesn’t Have Any Friends Of Her Own
If you have no friends of your own and your life revolves around your man that could actually pose a problem. Girls that have a life of their own are very attractive to guys because they don’t have to worry about entertaining their girlfriends all the time. If you are socially awesome, you will be like a magnet to your guy.
If you don’t have anyone in your life that you consider to be important, your guy might wonder why that is. He will also cringe at the thought of going out with his friends and you sending him texts all night.
14 Swoon: She Makes Him Feel As If She Needs Him
You may think that your big, tough guy doesn’t need to feel needed, but you would be wrong. Guys need it just as much as we do, maybe even more. When you get a flat tire, make sure that he’s the one you call for help. Need a spider squashed? Call his name.
Guys love saving their damsels in distress and sometimes we all need a little saving. It’s part of a guy’s genetic code to take care of the woman in his life. If he feels like you need him, he’s going to fall hard. This should be an easy one for you to do.
13 Annoyed: She Makes Fun Of Him In Front Of His Friends
Guys want to be with a girl that makes them feel like they are the king of the castle. So if you start telling his friends about how he loves to sleep with a stuffed tiger, he’s going to feel about an inch tall. This isn’t a hard one to figure out, really. Just don’t make fun of your guy, especially in front of his friends!
Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds may be able to pull this off but trust us when we say that all guys aren’t as confident as Ryan is. Your guy wants you to be proud to be with him and he doesn’t want his friends to think that you think he’s silly.
12 Swoon: She Gives Him A Chance To Miss Her
If you spend all your time with your guy and you two are together 24/7, then how is he ever going to get a chance to miss you? It’s the missing you part that gets a guy to fall in love because it’s in that moment when he misses you that he also realizes that he can’t live without you.
We know you love spending all your time with your guy but it’s okay for you both to go out and do your own thing. That way, you have something to talk about when you meet up again. Give him a chance to miss you when you’re gone.
11 Swoon: She Shows Off Her True Nature
Don’t pretend that you’re someone that you're not just to get a man to like you. Guys fall in love with real girls and it’s likely going to be you showing off your true nature that gets him falling head over heels. If you want a guy to love you then start showing him who you really are.
Just look at Gwen Stefani and Blake Shelton. It’s definitely her wacky nature that had him falling in love with her. Don’t expect a guy to be impressed by a fake version of yourself. If you are goofy, show him that. If you think you are the funniest, smartest, coolest, most adventurous girl out there, then you need to show him that.
10 Annoyed: She Sends Him One Text After Another
So you text your guy and he doesn’t get back to you right away. We know how annoying that can be. You assume if you send him 15 more messages that it will make him respond to you. It’s tricky logic and it rarely works. A guy is not more likely to respond just because you send an avalanche of emails. If anything, he’s more likely to get annoyed and ignore your messages.
There’s usually a good reason why a guy is not responding to your messages. He could be busy at work or even sleeping. Women have a bad habit of thinking a guy doesn’t like her anymore if he’s not texting her every moment of the day. Chill out and stop sending so many messages.
9 Swoon: She Appreciates His Masculinity
Men want to be appreciated for their masculinity and you may think that it’s silly but it’s just the way that they are built. They want you to think that they are the strongest and most powerful guy out there. Whether that means that you pump him up before he goes off to the gym or congratulate him on how he closed that business deal, do it because he wants you to think he’s manly.
That’s not a hard thing for a woman to do because you probably already like that part of him. Sometimes a guy just wants to be told that you think he’s strong.
8 Annoyed: She Drives By His House To Check Up On Him
We probably don’t have to tell you why this is a bad idea, you already know it is. Whether you want to hear it or not, this sort of behavior is weird even if he is your boyfriend. You need to be able to trust him, so there should be no reason to check up on him. If you don’t trust him, then why are you with him?
If your guy actually catches you doing this, he’s not going to be very happy. There is no reason for you to assume that he’s not doing exactly what he said he was doing. Guys won’t tolerate this sort of stuff and he will just break up with you.
7 Swoon: She Patiently Waits Until He’s Ready To Say ILU
You may be at that stage in the relationship where you know that you are in love with your man. That’s a fun place to be in. The only problem is, he hasn’t said it yet. There is no rush with things like this and he should be allowed to move at his own pace. No guy wants to be made to feel like he should say “I love you” before he’s ready.
We don’t mean that you have to wait until he says it first but just be respectful that if he doesn’t say it back, it doesn’t mean that he never will.
6 Annoyed: She Gets Jealous All The Time
A jealous girlfriend is not a fun girlfriend to have. All girls and even guys get jealous at some point in their lives, it’s not the end of the world. It’s understandable that you can feel afraid of losing your man to someone else. But if you are the type of person who gets jealous a lot and irrationally so, then a guy is going to quickly tire of that.
If you have a reason to be jealous, fine, but getting jealous for no reason usually means that there are some insecurities that you aren’t dealing with. Don’t give into your jealousy unless you actually have a reason to do so.
5 Swoon: She Lets Him Know That She Is Thinking About Him
There are small ways that you can show a guy that you are thinking about him. You could send him a message while he’s at work (not an avalanche of messages), you could make him dinner when he comes home from work, or you can record his favorite shows. When a guy sees that you care, he’s going to know that you are the one for him.
Again, these are simple things to do and they shouldn’t be a chore. Just like you want your guy to bring you flowers randomly, guys want to know that you are thinking about them too.
4 Annoyed: She Has No Interests Of Her Own
Guys love girls who are passionate about something. It could be your career, your volleyball league, your painting classes, whatever. Not only does it give you something to talk about when you are together but it makes you grow as a person. He probably loves seeing your face light up when you talk about art.
We know you like spending time with your guy but you have to have your own interests as well. You should always be doing the things you did before you got in a relationship. Your interests shouldn’t just disappear.
3 Swoon: She Supports His Interests And Dreams
Behind every successful man is a woman cheering him on… or something like that. If your guy has interests or dreams, you should be supporting them just like you would want him to do for you. Be the girl that gets him pumped up to be successful in life. Maybe what he’s interested in is baseball and you are the girl in the stands cheering him on.
Whatever it is that he is passionate about, he wants your support. Be there for him and that’s how he’s going to know that you are the girl for him and he will want you forever.
2 Annoyed: She’s Possessive Of Him
Guys love their freedom, they don’t want to be possessed or controlled in any way. A healthy relationship means that your man gets to have a certain amount of freedom. Both of you should. You both have your own interests and just because you are in a relationship it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t still do the things that interest you.
If you make a guy feel stuck in the relationship, then that puts unnecessary pressure on the situation. If you become too possessive, he’s likely to lose interest in the relationship and eventually end it. Being possessive isn’t going to make your relationship grow.
1 Annoyed: Checking His Phone
We love this picture of Beyoncé and Jay-Z because it’s the epitome of every girl in the world who has been keen to check her boyfriend’s phone. Don’t do it. It’s a sign that you don’t trust your boyfriend and it usually causes a downward spiral in the relationship. If something has happened that makes you not trust him, then you might want to reconsider being in the relationship.
But if nothing has happened, then you need to stay away from his phone. Guys don’t want to be snooped on, especially if they have done nothing wrong. Trust him until he gives you a reason not to.
Sources: Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan