First dates are nerve-racking enough and thinking about how to ask someone out is going to give us even more butterflies. There are so many complicated things that can happen on a first date. We have to think about whether we're going to see each other again and if we're feeling any romantic vibes. It's crazy to think how much we have to think about before we even go on that date, namely, if we're going to ask the guy that we like out or if we think that he will ask us.
When we're wondering if our crush is going to ask us on a date, we're daydreaming about the cute dress that we want to wear and the beautiful restaurant patio that we'll sit on and the laughs that we're going to have. What we should be thinking about is whether he can tell that we like him or not. There are certain things that we can do to make him ask us out and other things that would make him think that we're simply being nice and friendly and nothing romantic is going to happen.
Here are 10 signs he should ask her out... and 10 signs that she's only being friendly.
20 Ask Her Out: She Comments On His Social Media A Lot
A guy should definitely ask a girl out if she's commenting on his social media posts. When he shares the healthy breakfast that he just made, she says it looks amazing. When he shares a snap from his latest trip, she says she's jealous and would love to go there.
The thing is that if she wasn't interested, she wouldn't be spending her time doing that.
She might like a few photos here and there but she wouldn't be commenting. It takes more time and effort and shows that she wants to start up a conversation with him. She might want to text him or talk to him IRL but is nervous, so commenting seems like the safe way to go.
19 Friendly: She Only Talks To Him When They're Around Other People
When a girl is simply being friendly, she won't try to talk to him outside of their group of friends or when they normally hang out. She'll smile and ask how it's going and maybe even ask about his job, but that's about it. She considers him a friend and so she's only going to talk to him as a friend. Since she's used to seeing him with other people, that's when she's going to talk to him, and she won't ever change that.
When she likes him, she'll talk to him one-on-one and always look for moments when they can chat by themselves.
18 Ask Her Out: She Always Texts Him First
Girls with crushes are totally fine with texting first. Sure, it would be awesome if the object of their affection would text them first, and it would be exciting. But they will stop at nothing to try to chat with the guy that they like and they hope that the more that they text, the better the chance of him asking her out.
Guys can take this as an invitation to ask a girl out.
She's making a move by texting him. If she was just being friendly, she probably wouldn't be texting at all, unless maybe it was a group text.
17 Friendly: She Invites Him To Hang Out In A Group
It's super exciting when you have a crush on someone and they ask you to hang out. You swear that means that they like you back and that you're one step closer to a full-blown relationship.
But are they inviting you to hang out with other people? Not so fast... because you might not be headed toward anything but friends.
When a girl is just being friendly, she'll ask a guy to hang out but only in a group. She doesn't want one-on-one time with him since she doesn't have feelings for him, so that's something for guys to keep in mind.
16 Ask Her Out: She Casually Mentions Movies She Wants To See Or Things She Wants To D0
Girls will drop lots of hints to try to get guys to ask them on a date. It's a real thing.
If a guy is wondering if a girl likes him in that way, he should consider what she talks about. Does she say that there's a movie that she really, really wants to go see? Does she mention something that she wants to do, like try a new brunch restaurant or go to a film festival?
If he's saying yes to these questions, then he should absolutely ask her on a date.
She is going to say yes for sure and it could be the beginning of an amazing and close relationship.
15 Friendly: She Asks About His Love Life
While a guy might get excited when a girl is asking about his love life and whether he's dating anyone, it might not actually mean that she wants him to ask her out.
She could honestly just be friendly and she just wants to strike up a casual kind of conversation. She's simply curious if he's got a girlfriend or has gone on any dates with someone special lately, but she's not looking to date him. If she liked him, she wouldn't ask this question because she wouldn't want to hear that he was dating someone, as it would make her feel awkward.
14 Ask Her Out: She Gets Shy Sometimes
It's a good indicator that she likes him when she's more shy than usual. She acts a certain way around him than she does with other people. This is easy for him to see if they have the same friend group and he can observe her with others. She feels more nervous around him so that makes her act more shy and quiet.
This always means that she would love to go on a date with him.
If she didn't, she would feel more comfortable being herself and wouldn't worry about it at all. Of course, if they did start dating and ended up in a serious relationship, she would be more comfy with being herself.
13 Friendly: She's Always In A Great Mood And The Life Of The Party
It would be easy for a guy to think that a girl wanted to go out with him when everytime that he saw her, she was really friendly and chatty and in a good mood. He would think that she had feelings for him. A girl would think the same thing if a guy acted that way around her.
The tricky thing about this? If this person is naturally like that. When someone is the life of the party all of the time, they tend to treat everyone the same way, and so it doesn't mean that they have feelings for someone and want to be more than friends.
12 Ask Her Out: She Remembers Every Detail From Everything That He Tells Her
It's pretty funny when a girl has got a major crush on a guy: she has a truly amazing memory when it comes to anything that he has ever said to her. He loves chipotle mayo more than any other sandwich spread? He's more of a fan of Friends than any other 90s sitcom? He loves baseball but isn't a big sports guy?
She will literally recall everything.
This is a big sign that she likes him and would really like to go out with him. If she didn't feel that way about him, she wouldn't really be that interested in learning everything that she can about him.
11 Friendly: She Doesn't Follow Up On A Previous Conversation (Which She Would If She Liked Him In That Way)
It's interesting to observe two friends talking vs. two people who are interested in becoming more than friends. While two friends might have a really deep, serious talk about a subject and then never mention it again, people who are crushing on one another will always have a follow-up discussion.
A girl is only being friendly when she'll talk to a guy about something, like his new job for example, and then forget to ask him how it's going when she sees him next. When she's got a thing for him, it's definitely more top of mind and she would always remember to ask.
10 Ask Her Out: She Always Wants To Talk About Shared Interests
When we like someone, it's really exciting to learn that we have some things in common and a list of shared interests. Maybe we both love to exercise and try new classes or we're dedicated runners. Maybe we're big cooks. Or maybe we have a favorite TV show in common that we love to chat about.
A guy should always ask a girl out when she wants to talk about their shared interests every time that they're together.
She wants to feel closer to him and get to know him better.
That's definitely why she's initiating these types of conversations.
9 Friendly: She Doesn't Answer Text Messages Super Quickly
There is no way that a girl would ever take a long time to answer someone's text messages when she's got a big crush. It's more like she would stare at her phone, wait a few seconds, and text back, all the while wondering if that was too soon.
It's really exciting to get texts from someone that we're crushing on. When a guy is wondering if a girl wants him to ask her out, he can think about her response time when it comes to text messages. When she'll wait a few hours or even a day to answer him, she just wants this to be a friends thing.
8 Ask Her Out: She Laughs At His Jokes (Funny Or Not) And Sometimes For No Reason Because She's Nervous
Giggling is a thing that happens when a girl is crushing hard. She's going to laugh at his jokes even if what he just said honestly wasn't that hilarious.
She likes him and she's happy and giddy around him.
Even just sitting or standing next to him is enough to put a smile on her face and put her in a really good mood.
It's pretty adorable, really, and a guy should be confident that she's dreaming of the day when he asks her out and when they can go on a real date. She really wants that date to happen.
7 Friendly: She Confides In Him
It's simple to assume that confiding in someone means having a crush on them and wanting a relationship. It might not always be the case.
A girl is going to feel vulnerable about the hard times that she's faced or a tricky situation that she's currently going through. She wants to talk to a good friend about this and she wouldn't want to tell a guy that she likes. She would want to put her best foot forward and make a good impression, and she would be worried that he would judge her or think that she should pull it together. She would tell him later, of course, but only if they were actually in a relationship.
6 Ask Her Out: She Asks Him A Lot Of Questions
It's funny how we tend to ask a crush a lot of questions. We might realize that we're doing this or we might not, but someone looking on would say that we just asked five questions in a row (oops).
Guys should always ask someone out who asks them a lot of questions.
It's a clear sign that she wants to get to know him and that she finds him really interesting.
She would never find anything about him boring and she wants to keep chatting with him (preferably in a first date type of situation... that would be the best).
5 Friendly: She's Pleasant But Not Overly Nice
A girl with a crush is going to be extra nice to him. A girl who sees a guy as a friend is going to be nice but nothing too obvious.
This is a tough situation because he might think that she likes him since she's always a total sweetheart when they hang out. He can see that she's only thinking that they're going to be friends when she's simply friendly but she doesn't go out of her way to talk to him, to ask how he's doing, or to try to make sure that he's having fun. She would only do those things if she wanted to date him.
4 Ask Her Out: She Has Mentioned A Few Times That She's Single
Girls don't really want to walk around yelling that they're single (and guys wouldn't either). It can feel awkward to still be single when everyone else seems to have found true love.
When a girl tells a guy that she's single, she's trying to hint that he should ask her out.
She's making it super obvious that she's available if he wants to go on a date with her.
How else can she spell it out for him? Well, besides saying to him, "I want to go out with you" but she'll try this first. She wants to make sure that he's into her, too.
3 Friendly: She Invites Others If He Asks Her To Hang Out
Let's say that this guy asks the girl that he's got a crush on to spend time with him and she invites some other people to join in. He might figure that he still has a chance at romance because she did say yes in the first place. If she didn't like him, she could have turned him down or said that she was busy.
The truth is that when a girl invites others to join in, she doesn't like the guy as more than a friend. She would absolutely want to hang out alone if she did because she would be hoping that it was a date. She wants to make sure that it's not a date, so she makes it more of a friend hang with other people, too.
2 Ask Her Out: She's Shared Bad Dating Stories With Him
Everyone who has gone on at least a few dates has some stories that aren't that happy or pleasant. No one who has been single would ever say that every first date that they have gone on has been perfect and lovely and wonderful.
When she shares bad dating stories with him, she likes him and would like to go on a date with him.
She trusts him enough to talk about these things which are sensitive and can even be a bit embarrassing.
She wouldn't talk about these tales with just anyone so it's a big deal and something that he should take as a sign that they should get together for dinner sometime.
1 Friendly: She Treats Him The Same As Everyone Else In Her Friend Group
Someone can be friendly... and then someone can be friendly in a way that suggests that someone is crushing hard. While these might look the same to the casual observer, they are not the same at all and there are differences.
When she treats him the same way that she treats everyone in the friend group, it definitely means that she sees him as a friend. She doesn't want to go on a date and if she did, she would be extra sweet to him or ask him more questions than she does other people.
It's too bad for sure but there will be someone who is more perfect for him.
