The internet is full of hot selfies that guys just can't stop drooling over. Some of these selfies are simple but sexy, while others are extremely elaborate and feature impressive and imaginative poses. Some have been talked about and reposted again and again, and you can tell that something about these pictures really gets men interested. What is it about a selfie that is such a turn on for guys? Most of the time these selfies are taken with relatively poor cameras. We all know that the majority of these women are not professional photographers. And yet they're capable of making their man's jaws drop the ground with the kind of pictures they send. But it's the unprofessional nature itself that makes selfies so appealing. They're just so spontaneous, candid and naughty!
But the internet is also filled with some pretty spectacular failures when it comes to selfies. Everybody loves to laugh at the girls who tried to send a hot pic to their man and ended up sending completely the wrong message. There are many ways in which this can happen, but in the end it just comes down to a few simple mistakes. What's the best way you can take a selfie? Try these poses if you really want to get your man going. And if you know what's good for you, you'll avoid the bad poses too.
20He'll Love: On Your Knees, Looking Up
One of your best bets as far as selfies go is to get down low. Guys are naturally attracted to women who appear more submissive, and getting down onto your knees is one of the most obvious ways to show submissiveness. You see many girls online taking selfies on their knees, and that's because they know how sexy it can be. You don't have to get into the flexible pose that the girl in the picture is doing - just do whatever's comfortable. It's even better if you put your hands downwards or behind your back, as that extenuates the submissive symbolism.
It's also a good idea if you take the selfie at such an angle where the viewer feels like he's looking down at you. You can do this by raising the camera above you, while looking up into the lens from below. Guys love to feel a sense of power and dominance, and just by viewing a selfie like this he will feel as though he standing over you, and you're looking back up at him.
19He'll Love: On Your Stomach
One of the most popular selfies of all time is this pose. There are many variations, but it's most widely known as the "BOB" or "Butt Over Back" pose. There is something very alluring about this particular pose, and it shows off your curves without being too obvious. There is also something playful and coy about his pose, and it almost has the feeling of a playful kitten trying to get your attention. Like the other pose previously mentioned, this pose plays into your submissive side.
By getting as low as possible, men see you in a vulnerable and therefore submissive role which they can be dominant over. But there is also something more intimate and romantic about this pose. Guys who see this will get a sneak peek of what it's like to wake up next to you one morning. This will send them to 7th heaven and really get their imaginations whirring...
18He'll Love: Bring Some Friends
It's always more fun when you take selfies with friends, and guys love it when you do this. You don't have to do anything too crazy with the other girl - just get close to her and be friendly. Guys will automatically get turned on by this, as the biggest fantasy of most guys is to hook up with more than one girl at one time. But if you feel like your girl might steal the spotlight from you, you might be better advised to stick with a solo selfie. Still, most guys will stay loyal, and a sexy but fun group selfie probably won't steer his attention away from you.
Actually, psychological studies have shown that girls can actually be seen as more attractive when they're viewed in a group. This means that if you can get a group of your friends together who are all about the same attractiveness level, you will be seen as more attractive as you would have been by yourself. So it's pretty much scientifically proven to be a hotter selfie if you bring friends along.
17He'll Love: Make Use Of A Mirror
Mirrors are a great choice when it comes to selfies, as this brings in a whole new realm of possibilities. Of course, sometimes mirrors are necessary to even take a selfie, especially with certain angles, or if you want to get your whole body in the shot without contorting your body into ridiculous shapes. But there's also something to be said about using mirrors in ways that most girls never think of. You can actually "cheat" your selfie so that you can get two pictures in one. All you need is a regular, run of the mill mirror.
Using a mirror, you can show off different sides of your body, giving him a three hundred and sixty degree view of everything you have to offer with just one single selfie. Guys will love this. In their minds, they see it as a mistake - you simply forgot about the mirror behind you and the hot glimpses it reveals. But we all know that this is something you planned all along... However, sometimes it really can be a mistake, so exercise extreme caution when using mirrors, or anything that can create a reflection!
16He'll Love: Lying On Your Back, Draped Over The Bed
Another classic that should be a staple in your selfie repertoire is this beautiful selfie pose. You're probably best to use a bed or a soft, raised surface if you want to really nail this selfie pose. This selfie is usually taken with you upside down in the shot, lying on your back, and draped across the bed. If you want to make this selfie extra special, drape your head and shoulders right off the edge of the bed, so that your back is arched and your head is hanging off the bed in a truly provocative pose. This is a fun pose that will get guys really excited, and is a favorite for many girls out there.
Guys will love this one not just because of its overwhelming hotness, but because of the intimacy and playful nature of it. Your bed is a very private place, and showing him this is a message to him that you're okay with him entering into your most intimate and private personal spaces. Once again, he will be reminded of what it's like to wake up next to you, and that's always a nice feeling.
15He'll Love: The Side Profile Body Shot
Let's face it, most guys are interested in one part of your body more than any other, and that's your butt. That might not be something you're comfortable with revealing in a selfie, and that's fine too. But if you're ready to give him a glimpse, the best way to show him what he's missing is with the side profile body shot. Your curves usually look their best with this angle, and he'll be able to trace the arch of your back all the way down to your butt in a way that will make him see stars. Although you'll be showing him this part of your body, this selfie pose is still tasteful and not as "in your face" as many other poses.
This is a popular selfie for all those fitness freaks out there, especially those who want to show off the results of all their hard work. It's common to see girls showing off their bodies after doing tons of squats for months, and that's the best exercise that you can do to make this selfie pose look even hotter than usual.
14He'll Love: The Bathroom Sink
Although this one is perhaps not as popular as it used to be, it's still a tried and true classic that most guys will love. Known on the internet as "#sinkbooty," this was all the rage on Instagram and across the internet. No one is quite sure how it started, but the trend was quick to catch on and soon all the girls were doing it. It's a really simple pose when you really get down to it, as it just involves sitting with one leg rested on the bathroom sink, while looking over your shoulder and taking a selfie in a provocative manner.
There's very little skill involved in this one, all you really have to do is point and shoot. Most bathrooms already have a mirror right there in front of you, so it just feels very natural to do. This selfie pose probably got started when a girl got tired from taking too many selfies in her bathroom. So she decided to take a rest - and voila! A new selfie pose was born.
13He'll Love: Be Flexible
One of the things that really turns guys on when it comes to selfies and girls in general is flexibility. While guys might flex their muscles to show their sex appeal, girls show the camera just how flexible their bodies are. It triggers an instinctual response in men, as they see before them a girl with a healthy, relaxed body. Britney Spears was one woman who got a lot of people talking with her flexible gym selfies, and all of a sudden she was hot again. If she can do it after having a few kids, so can you.
It may take a little bit of practice to get your flexibility back, but once it's there you'll be capable of some seriously hot selfie poses. When you're truly flexible, there are so many poses to choose from when it comes to selfies. It really broadens your horizons. You can do the splits, yoga poses, or you can even get really creative with some handstands!
12He'll Love: Over The Shoulder
Sometimes, it's the little things that really get a guy interested. You don't have to try too hard with selfies to get a guy's attention. Sometimes the cuter, more tasteful selfies will really get a guy's attention, especially when he appreciates girls that are a little more shy or reluctant to show too much. You really have to judge what you think a guy will want to see. If you think he's more of a refined gentleman, or if you're just not comfortable with going to crazy when it comes to selfies, you can always go with the sexy but simple "over the shoulder" selfie.
This is the same shot you see in countless fashion magazines, and it's widespread for one reason - it works! There's something undeniably alluring about a girl looking back over her shoulder, and guys just love seeing it. You can recreate this iconic fashion pose from the comfort of your own home quite easily. If you want it to look truly artsy you can also change the filter to black and white.
11He'll Love: “Just Woke Up”
Here's another selfie that always does the job. There's been a huge trend lately of girls posting selfies of themselves as soon as they wake up. These selfies are usually taken without any makeup or touch ups of any kind, and are meant to be as raw as possible. Of course, that doesn't stop some girls from cheating. Some get up, go to the bathroom, do their makeup, and then get back in bed and take the photo, while claiming that they just woke up. While many accuse them of cheating, technically they're not lying - they did just wake up, it's just not as immediate as most people think.
In any case, this selfie pose will drive most guys crazy with desire, as seeing you in bed and imagining themselves waking up next to you is almost too much for a guy to handle. They will immediately start to fantasize about seeing that beautiful sight every time they wake up. Will they be so lucky? That's up to you to decide...
10He'll Hate: Standing While Looking Down
One selfie pose you should probably avoid is one where you are standing and looking down at the camera. This is a low angle selfie where you gaze down at the lens. While it may seem like an interesting and unique choice for a selfie, it usually fails to capture the attention of guys, and this is for a number of reasons. First of all, it's never a good idea to take photos of yourself from a low angle. These are usually the most flattering photos, and the angle makes your face look less attractive than higher angles. You have to crane your neck down, which in turn makes your chin disappear into your neck, which is not a good sight.
Additionally, this is also a bad idea purely for psychological reasons. A low angled selfie like this gives the impression that you're standing over the person looking at the photo. This has the subliminal effect of making the viewer seem small and insignificant compared to you. As most guys like to feel dominant, they can get turned off by seeing you as the dominant figure, looming over them.
9He'll Hate: Any Selfie Where They Can’t See Your Face
Girls often make the mistake of taking amazing selfies but failing to actually include their face. You might have the most perfect selfie which shows off your curves and body, but it's really nothing if the guy can't see your face. Sometimes this is totally unintentional, with girls only realizing afterwards that their face is hidden by the camera, or cut out of the frame. Other times, girls do this on purpose because they're insecure about their faces - perhaps more so than their actual bodies. Either way, it's never a good idea.
Despite the fact that guys love a woman's body, and are sometimes guilty of staring to long at their body parts rather than meeting their gaze, men connect strongly to the face as well. If they can't see your face, int their minds they can't "link" your body with your actual personality.
8He'll Hate: Arching Your Back Too Much
Selfies are a pretty big deal in today's society, and girls do whatever they can to make them absolutely perfect. Sometimes that means spending hours trying to get the exact perfect angle. Other times it might mean getting your makeup just right before snapping a selfie. While all these efforts make sense in the grand scheme of things, there is such a thing as "trying too hard." Selfies, despite all the time you might have put into them, are supposed to look spontaneous and effortless. But there are some girls who try too hard, and it shows in the selfie.
A good example of this is a girl who tries to arch her back way too much in a selfie. Many girls know all about the powers of good posture, and guys agree that there's nothing sexier than a perfectly arched back. But if you try to arch your back too much in an effort to fully highlight your best curves, it can actually backfire on you completely. Guys can see quite clearly when a pose seem unnatural, and a back that's arched too far will seem weird and off-putting to them.
7He'll Hate: Trying (And Failing) To Do Complex Yoga Poses
Another example of "trying too hard" is when girls use their selfies to show off extremely complex yoga poses. Don't get me wrong, yoga selfies can indeed be hot, but there's a fine line between taking a hot yoga selfie and just showing off how flexible you can be. Sometimes yoga poses are a little more cringey than they are sexy. A guy might even feel a sense of pain watching you pull yourself into a pretzel, and your idea of a sexy selfie might not always be the same with him. The girl in this selfie is actually doing a great job, but there are many examples on the internet of those who have taken it way too far.
The number one mistake girls make when attempting yoga selfies is that they try things they're not comfortable with. You should always stick to yoga poses that you're actually experienced with, as some of them can result in serious injury if done incorrectly. In addition, if you don't know how to do a yoga pose, doing it incorrectly actually looks worse than if you had done a more simple yoga pose and completely nailed it.
6He'll Hate: The Duck Face
Ah, the good old duck face. For many years, it was the signature facial expression for pretty much every girl taking a selfie. At first, it wasn't really a big deal, but when everyone started doing it, it became extremely annoying. Most girls know now that the duck face selfie is a big no no, but some still slip into old habits. People who make this face are pretty much crucified on the internet, and there have been some pretty hilarious memes. But don't feel too bad if you find yourself doing this from time to time, as even celebrities have been caught making the duck face.
You probably already know why the duck face is so hated. Not only do other girls hate it, but guys get annoyed by it too. It's just another example of a selfie in which you're trying way too hard. The duck face is basically just a girl who wants to make her lips look as full as possible, but the end result is pretty cringey.
5He'll Hate: Selfies That Focus On Clothes/Shoes
This is probably an obvious one, but selfies that focus more on new shoes or clothes generally don't really interest guys. There are a few exceptions to this, however, most notably if you're taking a selfie in your new bikini or lingerie set. As much as girls want guys to be interested in women's fashion, they're just not going to exhibit the same kind of interest as your bffs. A new handbag or a really expensive set of heels will mean absolutely nothing to the average guy, and he might even be annoyed that you've sent him a selfie that focuses on that. There's nothing worse that get excited about being sent a selfie, and then feeling the crushing disappointment of realizing that it's just a picture of shoes.
Plus selfies like these tend not to show your face or your body, a point which has already been mentioned in this article. Guys want to feel as though they're seeing not only a side of you that no one else sees, but they also want to see and connect with your personality. And the eyes to the soul are your eyes and your face.
4He'll Hate: Posing With Children
There are a lot of women out there who are proud of being attractive moms, and that's cool. Many guys are totally turned on by girls who are good with kids, as this triggers a instinctual reaction in them. The fact that you are able to have and raise children means that you are prime mate material, on a very deep psychological level. But that doesn't mean you should include your kids or your babies in your selfies. Sure, once or twice is okay, but if you're going to send him a picture with the intent of getting him excited, it's probably a good idea to leave the baby out of it.
This might seem fairly obvious, but many girls and women seem to make this mistake constantly. In a guy's mind, it's just really hard to get turned on when there's a baby in the picture. The idea of you having children is a turn on to them, just not the actual end product. It's contradictory, we know. Even if you're not a mom yet, you might get the impulse to pose with friends' babies and send them to your man. This might actually be bad idea, as they could start freaking out about you wanting to have kids before he's ready.
3He'll Hate: Posing With Other Guys
Guys are famously jealous. There's no getting around that fact. They are hardwired on an evolutionary level to compete with other males for mates, and no amount of civilization, cappuccinos, and indie music is ever going to change that. And it's hardly a bad thing. Most girls like a man who's willing to fight for them (maybe not literally, but the point is they care about you). However, some girls forget this when they take selfies. Posing with other guys will immediately get their jealous minds whirring, even if they know you're loyal. It just feels wrong to them.
Some girls even get the idea that posing with other guys will make them more interested, because men's jealousy will prompt guys to "claim" girls before they're taken by someone else. While this might be true in some circumstances, it can also send the wrong message and simply confuse the guy.
2He'll Hate: Always Place The Camera Higher Than Eye Height - Never Below
Probably the most important rule when it comes to taking a selfie is always keep the camera above eye level. This is a well-known rule in photography, and if you've ever had your headshot taken, you'll notice that the camera is always placed ever so slightly above eye level. It's just much more flattering that way, and can really make your bone structure and the natural beauty of your face that much more noticeable. That's why kneeling selfies are so good - and standing selfies while looking down almost always fail.
If you take a selfie from an extremely low angle, you'll notice that your face changes dramatically. The skinniest girls in the world can look pudgy and weird when they lower their cameras down. Funnily enough, many girls on the internet have discovered this, and instead of avoiding it, they're purposely taking selfies from this angle just for giggles. But unless you're just joking around, it's probably best to avoid this angle.
1He'll Hate: Don’t Flex Too Hard
Some guys love a muscular, ripped woman. But those men are in the vast minority. Women are more conscious about their bodies now that ever before, and many love to show off their washboard abs and beautiful tight thighs and legs. There's nothing wrong with that, but you might want to think twice before you send a selfie that focuses primarily on your muscles. This is especially true if you've spent lots of time in the gym, and have muscles that are actually bigger than most guys'.
Once again, men really get turned on by girls a little more on the submissive side. Having a killer body is not something you should hide, but if your muscles are huge and ripped, you might not want to flex so hard. Muscles of this size can actually be somewhat intimidating to some men, or just a total turn off. Again, this is another example of "trying too hard" in a selfie.
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