It is every woman’s dream (when they finally find their prince charming) to look forward to the wedding. You love him, you plan your life and future with him in the picture. Then… he pops the question and you say “I do”. From then on everything is all about planning and getting ready to share your lives together. You buy your wedding dress and you make all the arrangements necessary to make your wedding day the best day of your life.
What you never imagine is that he will back off in the last minute. That you’ll be left on your wedding day alone and that the wedding that you’ve planned with so much enthusiasm and joy will not take place. Because for whatever reason, he’s a chicken and can’t go through with it.
These men seriously need to grow up. It’s just a wedding for crying at loud, not going to war! But it just became too much for them and they decided to leave their brides high and dry.
These heartbreaking stories will show you a darker side of what happens when plans fall through and dreams shatter. Women who had the best day of their lives turned into a traumatic experience that will very likely leave emotional scars. At least in the majority of cases, some actually managed to pull through and got the last laugh.
15. One Hour Before The Wedding He Backed Off
“We’d decided we’d marry in Hawaii. He was very much involved in organizing things. On the day itself, I was so excited. I went for a run that morning and I remember telling myself to savour everything. We were staying at a hotel overlooking the beach where the ceremony would take place and, from our window, I watched preparations. Maybe that’s why I wasn’t nervous as I started getting dressed. Maybe that’s why I was so blindsided by what happened next.
He came into the room and said we needed to talk alone. He was crying. I assumed he was letting the emotion of the day get to him. Then he said it. “I don’t think I can do this.” I couldn’t understand. I asked: “Are you joking?”
He shook his head. I stood there – with the veil already in my hair. This man who was supposed to be the love of my life was telling me he was calling off the wedding less than an hour before we were due on the beach. I didn’t even ask why. I told him to leave. That hotel room suddenly felt so small.”
14. The Wedding Planner Tells the Story
“Several years ago, I planned a small Caribbean destination wedding for a couple from California.
One day before the wedding we agreed to meet for breakfast to review final details, and to visit the demographic office together afterwards to get their marriage license.
We reviewed and agreed upon the game plan for the ceremony. But when I pulled out the folder to get signatures on the marriage license paperwork, the whole vibe at our table suddenly changed. The bride signed everything and passed it to the groom, who studied it closely as though he had the slightest idea what it said. After a few minutes, he pushed the papers back to me, unsigned.
“I’m not sure we’re ready to take this step,” he informed me. “We’re not ready to get married yet.”
My jaw dropped – I was speechless. The bride’s face mirrored mine, but she didn’t say a word, either. We both looked at the groom like he’d lost his mind.
He was talking to me, the wedding planner, like he should have been privately talking to his fiancé. He then went on to list multiple reasons he didn’t think they should get married – to me, not to bride – justifying his decision. As though he needed to convince me.”
13. From the Best Day of Your Life, To Your Worst
“It’s the happiest day of your life. And then, in a moment, it’s the worst day of your life. Just like that…He said, ‘I can’t do it.’…You know that feeling you get when you get bad news?…I was as low as a person could get….I can remember lying on that couch one day and thinking, you know what, how in the world did I get here? How did I get here?”
This story clearly shows us how much of our well-being and happiness we rely on our partners for. It’s inevitable, you picture certain events as happy events, like your wedding, especially when you have everything planned. But you never really imagine that he’ll leave you high and dry on that special day. Why? Why not go through with it and maybe ask for a divorce down the line? The trauma would be less severe I imagine.
12. He couldn’t Do It
“We were there, and everybody was happy and excited, and he was late. I didn’t think anything about it at first because he was kind of always late. When he finally came in, I didn’t see him at first. His sister came into the sanctuary, where we all were, and said that he needed to see me. I knew. I knew something was wrong. I went back into the priest’s office, and [he] looked horrible. It was kind of surreal, because I saw him in a suit, like he was getting ready to go through with the rehearsal, yet the look on his face didn’t correspond with being in the suit. So I could see. I knew. I just knew before he said a word that the wedding wasn’t going to happen. And then he said the five words that changed my life forever. ‘I just can’t do it.’…I think anybody who has been through a shock like that, you know how you feel. Your body is just really numb.”
11. He Didn’t Even Book The Church
“While guests are arriving to the church they find the church locked and no one inside. Out from nowhere the groundskeeper appears and asked why the guests are there? They responded they were there for a wedding. The groundskeeper informs them no wedding was set to take place. After many phone calls back and forth between my guests, the groundskeeper, and my potential groom it was discovered that the groom NEVER asked his pastor to officiate our wedding, nor did he book the church for the wedding. By that time it seemed to me, and others, that he simply DID NOT want to get married….I was devastated and humiliated beyond belief that I could have been left at the altar like that.”
What this poor bride must have gone through?! When the groom had had it in mind for weeks, maybe even months and still didn’t dare to tell her and instead let her and all the guests arrive when the church wasn’t even booked.
10. When The Groom Is a Complete A-Hole
“My ‘fiancé’ laughed in my face when the pastor asked if he would take me to be his wife and humiliated me in front of my whole family and his. I’m currently in a custody battle for my son.”
It’s humiliating enough when a groom leaves a bride at the altar, but to go that extra mile to humiliate her even more by laughing in her face in front of family and friends? Words can’t describe the type of man he is. Who would do something like this to a human being? Even worse, to the mother of his child.
It’s understandable that feelings change. Love fades away and relationships end. But there really was no need to make it more painful by intentionally causing a bigger humiliation. What makes this story even more heartbreaking is that this woman will have to deal with her ex forever, since they have a child together.
9. A Guest’s Account
“Flew into Atlanta for a friend’s wedding. Checked into the hotel where all the guests were staying, then met a few friends in the bar. This was pre-cell phone days. At one point, someone came in and breathlessly said that the bride and groom got into a big fight and called it off. Sure enough, there was an announcement at the front desk the next day. Everyone from out of town sat around for two days hanging out in the hotel pool and hitting bars and gossiping. It was actually quite fun – we hadn’t seen each other in a while, so it was a college reunion basically.
Finally heard from him a few days later when he called to apologize- turns out the wedding planning brought out the very worst in her, and he decided he didn’t want to be with her anymore. They never talked again. Ah.”
Can we really blame him? The wedding panning experience showed this man a side of his bride he hadn’t seen, it showed him bridezilla. A scary side that showed what she could be like under a lot of stress. Life if full of stress, so it was a big hint of what she was going to be like in their future life together. If anything, I would say this guy made the right decision.
8. She Was Glad He Left
“He had spent the previous day spending a lot of time with his ex instead of helping me set up.
I yelled at him about it because he was late and hadn’t helped at all. He said he didn’t want to get married because spending time with his ex made him realize I wasn’t as fun as she was because I was uncomfortable with him doing drugs.
Kicked him out and still had the party. I told him to use that time to go home and pack up all his sh**. He did.”
Now, this is one of those blessings in disguise. Here we have a smart lady who got to see the dark side of her groom and actually use it to make a smart decision. He did dump her, but she made the most of it. She had the party anyway, had fun and felt relieved to get rid of him. Sometimes breakups are sad, but sometimes, they’re a blessing.
7. He Never Showed Up
“When I put on my beautiful white dress on my wedding day I felt like a million dollars.
I couldn’t wait to become Christian’s wife.
When I arrived at the register office and he wasn’t there I tried to make light of the situation by joking I was the one that should be late.
But as the minutes turned to hours it dawned on me I’d been stood up on my wedding day. I was devastated.”
The longest wait a bride could suffer, waiting for the groom to show up. It doesn’t take a gentleman to call off the wedding, it takes basic human decency to at least call the bride, or ask someone to let them know you’re not coming. Instead of just deciding not to show up and leaving your partner standing there, waiting for an event that won’t take place.
6. Created a Wonderful Situation Out of a Horrible One
Quinn Duane received a devastating call on her wedding day. A phone call that said that the groom had gotten cold feet and was not going to show up for the wedding. They, of course, had everything planned out and organized. With a delicious dinner to take place at the four-star restaurant The Grange, at The Citizen Hotel in Sacramento, California.
The bride’s mother, Kari Duane told KCRZ news “When I found out Monday that the wedding would not be taking place, it just seemed like, of course, this would be something that we would do to give back. I feel a lot of heartache and heartbreak for [my daughter], but I will take away something good from this, I will.”
And what did they do? They offered the wedding dinner to the homeless. 120 people in total, showed up to the lavish restaurant to dine on, what would have been, the wedding food.
5. She Trashed The Dress
“Five days before the wedding the unexpected happened. My fiancé and I sat down and he told me that he was not in love with me, and did not want to marry me, or spend the rest of his life with me.
I was in complete shock and had no idea what to think or do. I was numb. The next couple days were a blur of calling guests, canceling services, and figuring out our living arrangements. Fortunately, my friends and family surrounded me and showed me endless love and support.
As the day that was supposed to be my wedding day approached, none of us knew what to do, think, or feel. […] A few people brought up the idea of trashing the dress, and at first it sounded crazy. But I knew that doing something to mark the occasion was the perfect thing for me. I was not going to let my ex-fiancé’s mistake of letting me go take away my happiness.
The moment the paint hit my dress… I was free. All the disappointment, all the hurt… I just felt it leave me. I can’t even describe how liberating and cathartic the experience was for me. I let go of all the hurt and became myself again.”
4. They Even Had a Baby Together
“My fiancé left me at the altar…the wedding was planned, we had booked everything, had my dress, bridesmaids, dresses, etc., I mean EVERYTHING was prepared. I had given invitations to my family and all. Well, out of nowhere he text me and said he didn’t care if I moved on to someone else because he didn’t want to marry me. I asked him what I did wrong and I asked for an explanation and he wouldn’t tell me anything. He said that I am perfect for him but he doesn’t want to marry me. He played head games with me telling me that he loved me and a bunch of other stuff…but then turned around and said he wasn’t marrying me and wasn’t going to be with me. The bad thing is, we have a baby. My heart is so broken. My chest has literally been hurting all day.”
Like another story in this article, this woman had it ever worst because they share a human being together. It´s bad enough being dumped, even worst getting dumped at the altar and almost unbearable is being dumped at the altar by your baby´s father. We definitely not blame her for having a broken heart.
3. She Left Everything and Traveled
“My name’s Katy and I decided to ditch weddings for wanderlust after being jilted.
Feeling heartbroken, confused and a little disillusioned with where life was heading I made the brave decision to quit my job in public relations, sold my house, my car and anything else that wouldn’t fit into a large backpack before jetting off on my own.
Everyone did think I was a little mad especially as I’d never travelled anywhere by myself before but it just felt right. I needed the time away from everything and everyone I knew to find myself.”
Katy is the author of the blog Not Wed or Dead. She was a spouse to be until her fiancé left her at the altar. Luckily for her, she made the best of that situation. Her blog is now a huge success, and we’re guessing she’s not missing her ex anymore. Hopefully she’s not.
2. She Celebrated With Her Dog
Regina Pitton was dumped three days before her wedding.
OK I get it! She wasn’t dumped at the altar but she was pretty close to it. Invitations had been sent, venue was booked, food was to be served and the whole bash was planned and ready. When suddenly her groom decided he didn’t want to get married.
But Regina wasn’t going to let that decision ruin her day, and so she decided to go ahead with the whole event, sans her groom, the ceremony and her ex-groom’s friends and family.
Instead she dressed her dog to the nines, made her pooch an honorary guest and celebrated what was suppose to be her wedding reception with her friends and family.
We have to hand it to her. She really wouldn’t let her groom walking out on her wedding ruin the party. This is what I call having a great attitude towards life. If everything was ready, it really would have been a shame to let it go to waste. So what better way of making the most of the situation than by partying with friends, family and your pet to rock on through a bad breakup.
1. She Sued The Groom
Andjela Niklovic was set to marry, what she thought was, the love of her life, in a ceremony she had spent months planning. But… what Andjela didn’t see coming was her groom’s ex-girlfriend.
It turns out that the groom, Veselin Lovric, was still deeply in live with his ex-girlfriend Tina, and at the very last minute before saying “I do” Lovric decided to ditch Andjela and run into Tina’s arms. Everyone was sitting down and ready for the ceremony and pictures had been taken. But the groom suddenly ran off. At the start everyone thought he just needed some fresh air, but after several minutes they realized he had taken off. It was later found that he had reunited with his old flame, Tina.
Nevertheless, the bride and her family didn’t stay quiet about the situation. They decided to take it to court, where they sued Lovric for £15,000, which where the costs of the wedding that didn’t take place because of him.
Sources: Huffington Post, The Guardian, Marie Claire, Glamour